Dating a married man with no children
When I'd ask why I hadn't heard from him for a while, he would say he worked at night and didn’t want to wake me when I was asleep. He suggested getting a hotel room in the city, which I wasn’t a fan of. When I suggested going to his place, he said no, as the wife he was separated from still lived with him.
The cycle of the love affair with a married man almost always ends in broken hearts, hurt, and wasted time.
To be fair, it was a particularly difficult time in my life, too. My mother and I went to see a Broadway show, as an attempt to cheer each other up after a particularly sh*tty few months.
My stepfather, the only father figure I'd ever known, died two months earlier. It worked, we were both blissfully, stupidly happy for a few hours.
Eventually those sneaky late night phone calls end abruptly with “I gotta go!
” and a click, leaving the other woman wondering all night if his cover was blown or not, and whether or not she will hear from him after that.
Sure there are a few people who actually leave their wives when they have met their “soul mate”. Although he gets to the point where he is saying he loves the side chick, he is usually more in love with his kids.
They probably have kids together and that is the only bond they share.
The ideal woman for this guy is the girl who has been hurt many times by single men and is in the stage where she just wants someone to love her.
This makes her feel as if the only thing keeping them apart is the ring on his finger.
Unfortunately, even if she is not ready to admit it, her subconscious desire is for him to make the dream come true, and leave his wife.